How I Stopped Controlling and Got the Marriage I Always Wanted

I used to think I had to do it all.

I was the one managing the household, making decisions, and keeping everything running smoothly. The problem? My husband seemed perfectly fine letting me take over everything—and I resented him for it.

I nagged. I reminded. I tried to explain why he should help more. But instead of stepping up, he withdrew. The more I pushed, the more distant he became.

I felt exhausted, alone, and frustrated. I wondered why he wasn’t the man I had married anymore.

Then I found the Six Intimacy Skills™, and everything changed.

I learned that my constant control was actually blocking my husband from stepping up. I had been unknowingly communicating that I didn’t trust him to lead, so he stopped trying.

So I did something radical—I let go.

I stopped micromanaging. I stopped criticizing. And most importantly, I started focusing on my own happiness instead of trying to control his actions.

At first, it was terrifying. But within weeks, I saw my husband transform. He started making plans, taking the lead, and surprising me in ways I never expected.

Now? I feel cherished, adored, and lighter than ever. I never realized how much control was weighing me down until I let it go.

If you feel like you’re doing everything in your marriage and still aren’t getting what you need, the answer isn’t to do more. It’s to do less—gracefully. And that’s where the real magic happens.